The marital researchers at the Gottman Institute in Seattle studied hundreds of newlywed couples for up to six years. The discovered that about 70% of the conflict issues that couples had when they were newlyweds, remained 6 years later. In other words, most of the things couples fight about don’t get resolved.
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Anger in a relationship stems most frequently from irresolvable issues. Issues that can be resolved seldom create nearly as much anger in a relationship. Sally was a neat-nick. Her motto was “a place for everything and everything in it’s place.”
Walter wasn’t a slob, but he was comfortable with things being a little messy. When they [...]

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Summary of Positive Relationship Signs
Positivity at a ratio of 5 to 1 or more is a key factor in whether your relationship will last. It is really, really important. It can get you through the most challenging difficulties. And, it makes your married life so much more pleasant than negativity.
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Turn Toward Your Partner
Other positive relationship signs that build positivity is what Gottman calls “turning toward” instead of “turning away.” Turning toward means being interested in your partner. This isn’t the big “I love you thing.” This is saying, “Really” when your partner says something. Or, “Tell me about that” or even “Huh.”
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Ways To Build The Positivity Ratio
Two of the most powerful positive relationship signs are fondness and admiration. We call this the appreciables list. Just for fun you may want to make a list of all the things that you appreciate about your partner, your relationship, your intimacy, your touching, your affection, and your partners respect, [...]

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Positive relationship signs even include signs that are Neutral … something like an ‘uh-huh’ is still a little positive. It’s worth 1/10th of a point. An expression of interest, like “really” or “tell me more” is +2.
Validation, such as “you’re right about that” is +4. Affection, from an “I love you” to calling your partner [...]

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What are positive relationship signs? Those are the signs that show you (and anybody who pays attention to your interactions with your partner), that your relationship is healthy and positive. Positive relationship signs are those words, attitudes, gestures, facial expressions, and body language that a married couple give to each other. To have a happy [...]

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